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Great paper written by Dr. William H. Doherty. Feel free to hit the link and read the rest of the paper.

How common is divorce and what are the reasons?
Marriage is a counter-cultural act in a throwaway society.
—Dr. William H. Doherty, noted marriage scholar and therapist 55

Overview: In the United States, researchers estimate that 40%–50% of all first marriages, and 60% of second marriages, will end in divorce. There are some well known factors that put people at higher risk for divorce: marrying at a very early age, less education and income, living together before marriage, a premarital pregnancy,
no religious affiliation, coming from a divorced family, and feelings of insecurity. The most common reasons people give for their divorce are lack of commitment, too much arguing, infidelity, marrying too young, unrealistic expectations, lack of equality in
the relationship, lack of preparation for marriage, and abuse. Some of these problems can be fixed and divorce prevented. Commitment is having a long-term view of the marriage that helps us not get overwhelmed by the problems and challenges day to day. When there is high commitment in a relationship, we feel safer and are willing to give more for the relationship to succeed. Commitment is clearly a factor in why some couples stay together and others divorce. Divorce is necessary at times, and it may even help to preserve the moral boundaries of marriage. But parents have a responsibility to do all that they reasonably can to preserve and repair a marriage, especially when the reasons for divorce are not the most serious ones. Barriers to leaving a marriage, such as financial worries, can keep marriages together in the short run. However, unless there is improvement in the relationship, eventually the barriers are usually not enough to keep a marriage together in the long run.

http://www.divorce.usu.edu/files/uploads/Lesson3.pdf

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I have been thinking about writing this for a long time but never had the time until now.

What is love?
1 in 4 women are sexually abused.
Every 2 minutes someone is sexually assaulted.
What is love?

7% of girls in middle school say they have been sexually abused.
12% of girls in high school say they have been sexually abused.
What is love?

If 1 in 4 women being sexually abused is considered love, then love is dark and sick. Love should just be considered a man dripping with lust, sneaking, manipulating, and attacking, innocent young women. If that is love, I want no part of it.

Statistics say 97% of people have sex before they get married.
50% of marriages end in divorce.
What is love?

In the year 2013 their is an estimated 1,671,257,652 pornography searches on the internet.
97 Billion dollars of revenue is collected each year for pornography.
What is love?

If this was law I could beg the theory that love is represented by sex. That is all men and women want. If almost everybody is looking for love and 97% have found it in sex, then that must be the key to love and happiness. However, divorce is running rampant. If a male or a female, can’t wait to have sex with you until marriage, what makes him or her have the self control to have sex with someone else. What is love?

Love is looking more and more like unhappiness, failed marriages, abuse, and rape. Our culture idolizes love so much, we worship artists and celebrities like Miley Cyrus, Katy Perry, Kim Kardashian, only because they take their clothes off. What is love?

What is love?
Love is a pure love. An unconditional love. A steadfast love. A caring love. One that cherishes her heart first, above all else. One that will not take advantage of her, one that will protect her, one that will fight for her, stay up late talking with her. Not one who manipulates her, not one who makes her fear for their relationship, and not one who leaves her. That is love!
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http://www.familysafemedia.com/pornography_statistics.html
http://www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats/
http://www.trustmattersmost.com/news/divorce-rates-in-2013-a-look-forward-and-a-look-back/
http://waitingtillmarriage.org/4-cool-statistics-about-abstinence-in-the-usa/
http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims
http://www.oneinfourusa.org/statistics.php